Who are the Victims?


Anyone can be a victim! Victims can be of any age, sex, race, culture, religion, education, employment or marital status. Although both men and women can be abused, most victims are women. Children in homes where there is domestic violence are more likely to be abused and/or neglected. Most children in these homes know about the violence. Even if a child is not physically harmed, they may have emotional and behavior problems.

You could be a victim of abuse or at risk if you are dating someone who:

  • is very jealous and/or spies on you
  • will not let you break off the relationship
  • hurts you in any way, is violent, or brags about hurting other people
  • puts you down or makes you feel bad
  • forces you to have sex or makes you afraid to say no to sex
  • abuses drugs or alcohol; pressures you to use drugs or alcohol
  • has a history of bad relationships and blames it on others

It is hard for young adults to leave their abuser if they go to the same school. They feel they cannot hide. Gay and lesbian teens at times are very isolated. They can be scared they may have to reveal their sexual orientation.
If you think you are being abused, think about getting help. If your family or friends warn you about the person you are dating, think about getting help. Tell friends, family members or anybody you can trust. There is help for you. You do not have to suffer in silence.